10.06.2009

It is what it is...


I have been debating for the past month about whether to share this post or not, and concluded that I am gonna take a chance and share a little bit of me.

My motto for this past year has been, "it is what it is". Sometimes you have things totally planned out and think everything is peachy keen only to find out that is not the case. A year ago today, my life was turned upside down and I was left feeling broken and incomplete. Everything I had ever known was ripped away and I was left staring in the mirror at a person I didn't recognize.

Luckily, I am surrounded my the MOST incredible (the word does not do them justice) people. My family, friends and co-workers lifted me back up, and gently patted me on the butt and encouraged me to move along.

And so I did....and let me just tell you what an incredible journey it has been so far. It sounds silly but this past year has taught me many things....
  • It's okay to let your guard down a bit and cry
  • Sometimes strangers can offer comfort you didn't know possible
  • The kindness of people in my life is astounding and humbling
  • Sometimes the I-tunes free song of the week, describes your life/situation perfectly
  • Going out with the girls and getting really drunk, does make you feel better (even if only temporarily)
  • I'm stronger now, then I have ever been before because of my friends and family and I don't know how I will ever thank them enough (thank you!)

So as I reflect on a year of pain and discomfort, I can honestly say that I am done mourning, done thinking what might have been and closed that book and dropped it in the garbage. My new book has a lot of empty pages, but the few that are filled out have made me smile, laugh and not look back. I look forward to the journey ahead and know that the best is yet to come.

30 comments:

Anonymous said...

As your mother, I can honestly say you are the classiest, most amazing woman I know. You held your head up high with dignity and laughed when you wanted to cry. I'm actually thank full for this last year because I think it brought us even closer and made me love you more than I thought possible. You make me so proud.

I LOVE YOU!!! And I LOVE your incredible friends.

XXXOOO
Mama

Mrs. Jetplane said...

While I don't know what troubles you have experienced in the past year, my heart goes out to you. I understand the strength that can be found in your family and girlfriends. Stay strong... its unbelievable what we can overcome.

Luci said...

What a beautiful post. I just recently found your blog, and thank you for sharing your journey with us!

Michelle said...

Lynds I love, love, LOVE that you did this post. You are so incredible, and have handled the past year with such grace. You have been an inspiration to me and everyone else around you. It has been so amazing to see where you have gotten in a year, I am so impressed by you...and very proud I must say. I love you, have fun tonight! :)

p.s. Your cute mom brought tears to my eyes, so sweet!!!

Erin said...

Lynds - this post could not have been written more perfectly. You are inspirational and huge motivation to all of us. You have shown us that on the darkest of days, there is still going to be a light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for being you and thank you for being such an amazing woman!

Mama - my favorite line to use with the girlfriends is "we have the best friends anyone could ever ask for" - it's the truth.

Shelby said...

I love you Lynds! You have me in tears! Happy tears :) You are such a strong, beautiful, KIND and POSITIVE person who deserves the very best in life. Words can't describe how amazing you are. I wish for you a life full of happiness, love, laughter and NO REGRETS! XOXO
PS you won my giveaway which I'm announcing tomorrow (so fitting) and I swear you were the random drawing. love love love!

cassandra @ coco+kelley said...

ok, seriously? stop it, i'm crying! i'm so so so proud of you girl. what a long way you've come, and with so many more possibilities in life! the doors are open wide for you, and i can't wait to see what happens next. I LOVE YOU!!! xoxo

Jaime said...

What a great post- that was so nice and refreshing to hear. I totally agree w/ your lessons learned! Cheers to your open book :)

Courtney and Nicholas said...

Lynds, you are an incredible lady!! I ditto everyone's sentiments in saying that you are inspiring, refreshing and motivating to us all. Your positive outlook on life is obvious in everything you do. You go girl...cheers to a bright, bright future! xoxo

Kris said...

Beautiful post Lynds. I do love the motto "it is what it is." There is something so calming about just plain accepting the way a situation is and being able to move forward. You've amazed and inspired me through everything and I am so excited to see how your new book will read! I know your empty pages will be filled with amazing things to come. :) Love you!

DeLane & Kevin & Parker Lilly said...

You are one incredible woman Lyndsy and we are all so proud of you. I love your mom's comment, it is so powerful and true:) xxoo

hotchildinthecity said...

I'm glad you went out on a limb to share this post! I went through a situation last year that sounds so much like yours. It's true, you come out much stronger than before. Congrats on moving forward, sounds like you're doing great :)

PinkSass said...

Truly beautiful post. I myself went through a very similar situation(or least I am guessing) and I couldn't agree more that friends and family are beyond incredible and you will learn so much about yourself. And from my experience alone my "new book" is so much better than that old book and I am a better person because of what I went through.

Nothing but amazing things ahead for you. I'm sure of it.

Tara said...

Lyndsy, I am so sorry that you have had to go through what sounds like a very difficult experience. You truly are a beautiful person. I hope your new book is filled with rich experiences, adventures, and happiness. xoxo

Lynne said...

Lynds you are amazing. You are such a strong, beautfiul, and positive person. I am blessed to have you in my life and cant wait to help you out with your new book of life :) love you xoxo

Stacie said...

I love you Lyndsy Lee and I'm SO proud to be friends with such a wonderful, selfless and inspirational person. Cheers to an amazing year ahead, one filled with laughter, love, family and your best friends!! XOXO

nifer said...

I love your mantra! That's something I need to remind myself of, and one of my former managers used to say that all the time when we were dealing with an issue.

P.S. I'm giving you a bloggy award!

~ Jen

MaryBeth said...

I do not know what you went through this past year but it seems as if you came out the other side with a better understanding of yourself and your family and friends. To find this out is a good thing, now you know that you can get past anything. I truly hope this is a better year and next is better than that. xo, MB

Holly said...

such a shock coming from one of the more cheerful blogs out there. cheers to you getting back up again!!
xo
holly

amy b.s. said...

all i have to say is congratulations on being absolutely amazing. i think i'm wading my way through something similar and knowing you're making it through and continue to be your fantastic self is really inspirational. i does give me a hope. so thank you.

Coug Gal said...

Wow, what an amazing post. Lyndsy, you are such a light in so many's lives and it radiates out even in your blog! What an extraordinary future you have ahead! Sending big hugs to you!

Sweet Nothings said...

thanks for sharing your struggles..it seems everyone has the debate with sharing the ultra personal posts, but isnt that what blogging is about!

i hope your doing better, and im sure you have that motto printed somewhere. i think i shall as well

Lindsey said...

Lyndsy,
Congrats to you for pushing through all of the pain and realizing that you are ready to move forward. I went through a very similar situation I believe a few years ago, and it's so hard to shake off all that negative energy. Just remember, "It's a new day." With all of the positive energy you emanate, it is bound to come back to you.

Jaclyn Z. Reiss said...

OH I wuv you for this. Thank you for reminding us all how much strength we DO have inside when tough times come our way. I am so proud of you and know that your new book will be one for the ages...xoxo

Megan said...

What a lovely post. Optimism is always the best way to go. I hope your next adventure in life is everything you want and more.

Molly said...

Massive amounts of hugs and wishes for fabulous shoes in your future. They always seem to help in the dark times. xoxoxo

Blyth Family Blog said...

Wow Linds! That was such an awesome post. I cannot believe it's been a year since Coffey told me that horrible news. You are such a great and beautiful person, inside and out. I'm so happy to have gotten to know you better. Hugs and kisses and can't wait to see you in Cali in a couple months!!

Natalie Moser said...

Beautiful, beautiful lady. I'm so proud of you (and your wonderful friends and family). It is what it is... and... you are who you are... a wonderful, energetic, and amazing lady who is creating her own bright path and doing it with style and grace.

xoxo - Natalie

PS- I acknowledge that if things hadn't happened the way they did I wouldn't have met you... and... selfishly, I'm so glad I did. ;)

Lyndsy said...

You all are just so phenomenal! Thank you for the amazing words and for reminding me why I am better off, and who I am surrounded by! Love you all!
XOXO

Avery Bleu said...

Sorry I am just renow reading this. Great post! So proud of you - yay for you! Such a strong girl and an even more amazing person than before. Look what you're capable of. Here's to new experiences. xoxo
PS. Waldo says "rye rove roo"

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